My heart is aching. My soul is screaming in pain and agony.
The feelings are starting to fold in on me. I feel bound and weighted.
Suffocatingly the clock is ticking, so fast.
My birthday is 1 week from today. My last birthday was the first time I left my little man for the weekend. He was so happy, so healthy, so strong. I spent the weekend away, forever losing my last weekend with my son. A time I can NEVER get back. I never spent another weekend with my family, whole and together. Never again another happy Saturday morning waking up with Bob, spending that slow morning getting Eli ready for the day. Never another quiet Sunday morning, just Eli and I while everyone was gone. NEVER. Those moments are forever gone, never to be had again.
The guilt I feel for missing that last weekend. The pain. Never did I know that I would lose my son 1 week after my birthday. 1 week. The thought of acknowledging my birthday, let alone celebrating it feels torturous, painful. The guilt overwhelms me. How can I celebrate the fact that I left, I missed that weekend? I can't. Maybe some day but right now the emotions are running SOO high and I can't do it.
2 weeks from today is Eli's 1 yr angelversary. I can't. I simply can't. The pain is building, like I would have never thought possible.
3 weeks from yesterday is 1 yr since we buried our beautiful tiny man. 3 weeks from yesterday Bob and I will be running our 1st 1/2 marathon. We will be crossing the finish line at almost the exact moment our Son's coffin was lowered into the ground.
Right now I simply can't find words to convey how I'm feeling.
What I can say is please be gentle with us. Please give us some leeway. Contact us. Talk about him. Share stories and pictures. Keep his name and memory alive. Come over and sit with us. Cry with us. Please don't push us though. We have to do what we NEED to make it thru these next few wks and the lifetime before us.
Please don't tell us that we are "doing this the wrong way", for there is no right or wrong way. We are doing this the only way we know how, one breathe at a time. Just love us, just love our tiny man.
Always and forever tiny man.