Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Child Support and Alimony are 2 different things.

did you all know that? heck I did. seems pretty logical to me. BUT apparently not everyone in the world is capable of grasping this concept. supporting your children has NOTHING to do with giving your spouse money for themself. kids have expenses. Who would have known? apparently a court has to tell you that you have to support your own children. apparently a court has to be the one to decide if a certain child ever incurs expenses that need paid for. well for only 1 parent. the parent with the children doesn't need a court to order them to provide for the children, they simply do it because that's what a parent does NO MATTER WHAT.
I've been informed that most mothers deserve child support, especially mothers that exhusbands like mine are dating, but I fall on the apparently very short list of ONE mother that doesn't deserve child support. Last time I checked the word CHILD didn't include me. the freaking money isn't to support me it's to support my children. why should i be the only parent busting my ass to support and raise my children. why should every conversation turn into a bash heather session? why does some egotistical assfuck think he can put me down as a mother and a person just because he and i didn't work out as husband and wife. GET OVER IT. i'm a DAMN good mother and NOBODY will tell me any differently, especially someone who doesn't know the first thing about being a parent.
hmmm well sorry about that everyone. i'm done with my ranting and raving. i'm just so sick of the freaking abuse.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Good Weekend

We had a great weekend. We got to spend alot of time together as a family, and Bob and I had some quiet time together without the kids! Sunday Bob and I went on a long walk at the nature center and saw tons of turtles, we took all the kids back on Monday morning! They had a great time feeding them! We saw turtles, a soft shelled turtle, frogs, crane, geese, 3 sets of mother ducks with their babies, and lots of fish. The kids loved it! Emily had a friends bday party to attend Saturday afternoon, and had a great time there! Jace went with his grandparents to see Night at the Museum 2! He loved it! We also spent some time this weekend playing games! Something I haven't done for quite a while but loved! We are definitely adding that to our do more often list! We did some shopping, and TONS of cooking! Last nights dinner was SUPER yummy. Bob and I spent about 6 hours in the kitchen but it was well worth it! Friday evening Bob and I went to dinner and a movie, and that was super nice to get out alone for a bit! We also rented the movie "The Business of Being Born". Great movie! Would definitely reccomend it to anyone!
The big kids are back at school for the next 3 days and then summer! Ben is off this week and then starts extended year on the 8th. He's already missing school and wanted to go. Thursday Emily has a field trip and Jace has a family picnic and graduation! We are all going and he's super excited!
I am officially 25% done with this pregnancy already. Time is flying by. Each pregnancy has gone a bit faster but WOW, this one seems to be flying. All is going well so that's good!
We have a busy few weekends and weeks coming up! Mr Ben's bday is coming up as well and he's super excited to be turning 4! So much happening! Everyone is happy and healthy so no complaints! :)

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

2 quick photos

Here is a pic of the little people tonight. they were all hanging out at the table coloring quietly together. A once in a lifetime activity! :)

Also here is a photo of me. 9wks2days. I'm getting way bigger way faster this time around. gotta love a 5th pregnancy belly! :)

More photos to come soon! promise

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Busy stuff

Wow so much has happened lately. I've hardly had anytime at the computer and am now so behind on blogging.
We moved out of our home. It flooded, alot. We had to move quickly. At the moment we put all of our things in storage and are staying with my parents while we get resituated.
The kids are doing well. Ben's last day of school is this coming Friday and Emily and Jace finish up next Thursday. We had an IEP mtg today and got Ben approved for Extended Year, so he will still be getting support over the summer. We are super happy about that, no regression hopefully! Ariana is still getting her OT at home, and doing well with it.
Ben's bday is coming up, he'll be 4. HOLY COW. We are having his bday party at Pump it Up and he's invited kids from his class and such. He's hoping for a fire truck cake! :)
The kids are outside almost every waking moment, and Baxter loves having them out there to run around with him. Ben and Baxter are doing great together and Ben has accepted him into his little "circle" very well. We are super pleased!
Things are going well with the pregnancy. I'm a little over 9 weeks now and due Dec 21st. I've been having headaches quite a bit and super tired. Hopefully getting to the point where I can figure out how to make them stop.
I will try to get new photos up before the end of the week. Those of you who are on my facebook can see some new photos there already as I've already got them up.

Dealings with Brian are still out of control and it's gotten to the point where I refuse to speak to him at all. He's decided he is a busy man and doesn't have time for his kids and that it's a waste of time to drive back and forth for his sons birthday. He randomly texts me attempting to fight with me and I simply refuse. Many of his comment are out of line and hurtful. He's dating Connie (Bob's ex-wife), (I know strange. hehe) but he apparently isn't happy still because he can't seem to leave me alone. Hopefully some day he'll realize that he still has 4 kids and he needs to be a parent. I can file child support in Kansas on July 30th so he will atleast be forced to help support the kids.